Name: Porsche Wilson
City, State: Birmingham, AL
Occupation: Vice President in Bank Operations, Mary Kay Director-in-Qualification
Theme song: “Go Get It” by Mary Mary AND “Again” by Faith Evans. Both songs speak to me for different reasons. “Go Get It” motivates me to go for what it is I want in life, as long as it is God’s will for me to have it. “Again” keeps me humble and reminds me of my redemption from a time in my life where things were not on the right track.
How are you living your “Ideal Life”?
I am so blessed to have a wonderful husband Marquis and 2 handsome rambunctious boys, Bryce (age 10) and Brandon (age 4). God has blessed me with 2 wonderful careers and my faith in Him keeps me humble. I live my ideal life daily by doing the things that make me most happy; we work hard but we play hard. We love to travel and do fun things together as a couple and as a family.
Describe your journey
I was born and raised in Dayton, Ohio by a single mother. My mother and my grandmother were the most influential people in my life. Besides God, they get all the credit for the person I am today. When I graduated from high school, I told my mom I wanted to go away to school and see other parts of the country and she gave me her blessing. I stumbled through life during my college years; finding myself was difficult, but I wouldn’t take back any of the experiences if granted the opportunity. After college, I entered the military as a commissioned officer and got the opportunity to see the world. I am very proud to be a war veteran and I am grateful the Army helped me to grow up and learn disciplined. I met my husband in college and he is also an army veteran. As a couple, we had to endure a lot of long term separation because of overseas deployments and stateside training missions. Maintaining a healthy and happy marriage was difficult in the beginning, and to make matters worse our firstborn was an extreme preemie and had a lot of medical problems in the beginning. He weighed 1lb 15oz at birth; it is by the grace of God he’s doing wonderful now and our youngest was born with no issues. We both decided to leave active duty military and live the civilian life; things have been amazing ever since!
What is the most valuable lesson you’ve learned?
I learned that when you have faith in God and you tell him your hopes and dreams, they’ll come into fruition. But it takes a lot of work, patience and sacrifice. I learned that life is short so you have to do what makes you happy.
As I enter my latter 30s I’ve also learned that people are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Being raised an only child I often bent over backwards for people who were not deserving. Today, I know I’m an awesome person to be around and I have to be careful who I allow to be in my space. Whether I’ve known someone for 15-20 years or 15-20 minutes, sometimes it’s best to part ways with people and avoid toxic relationships at all costs.
What challenges did you have to overcome?
My childhood wasn’t really all that bad; I got a chance to do more things than most kids. My mom worked a lot but she was an amazing mom. She was very good at creating certain life experiences for me that most kids in my neighborhood didn’t get the chance to experience. Unfortunately, what I lacked was the physical/emotional love that a daughter gets from her father, so as a teen and young adult I found myself looking for love in all the wrong places. I was fortunate enough to find a great man who loved me and respected me, but even when I got married I wasn’t quite healed from my father not being around. It was my husband who continued to love me and help me heal from those emotional scars and made me a better person, wife and mother.
What is your morning routine?
My morning routine is pretty simple. It consists of watching the news, talking with my husband and getting my boys ready for school. Immediately following, I get dressed for work and head to my job at the bank. I also try to spend a few minutes reading either a bible scripture or a devotional message from the First 5 app. I love the First 5 app! On my way to work, I listen to the Steve Harvey Morning Show, TED talks, or an audio book. I’m currently listening to “Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn” by John C. Maxwell.
What motivates you?
Work/Life balance is very important to me. I’m motivated by my love for my family and how we love to have fun. I live for our family fun! As I said earlier, we love to travel and we love to play hard, so I take on any task or job that accomplishes that goal. We are frequent Disney World travelers; it is our happy place and we make it a point to go there about every 18 months or so.
In addition to having fun, my life’s goal is to create an amazing life for my babies, Bryce and Brandon. I work hard to ensure they have the security, confidence and a few things I may not have had growing up. Whenever I have an issue at work or in my business, I see their faces when I close my eyes, get motivated and figure it out!
What would you share with those aspiring to create and live their “Ideal Life”?
In creating your ideal life, you must remember that all things happen according to God’s plan. There may be things that you want in life but God knows how the story ends and he will steer you in other directions. It is important to pay attention when those steering moments occur in; be grateful God is steering you towards bigger and better things. I also believe that when God blesses others around you, get excited because that means He’s on your street and your blessing is next!
You have to decide what is ideal for YOU; not what may be ideal for others, or what others think is ideal for you. We enter this life alone and we will leave this life alone. It is critical that we live our lives the way we want, pursue our own dreams and be unapologetic about the paths we choose.
What’s next for you?
The sky is the limit for me. I have some pretty huge goals and I plan to use my Mary Kay business to accomplish them. I’m working on creating a more flexible work life schedule so I am available more for my boys while they’re in school. My youngest (Brandon) is going to kindergarten in the fall and it hit me like a ton of bricks that they’re growing up right before my eyes. I want to stop time in its tracks, but since I can’t, I choose to be more involved in their matriculation and extra-curricular activities. In addition, my husband and I are in the process of creating a Bucket List of adventures we’ve always wanted to do and we prioritized them and will begin checking them off one-by-one. Stay tuned!
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