Name: Christi Fightmaster
City, State: Maryville, TN
Occupation: Marketing Director/Pugh CPAs
Theme song: “Livin’ My Life Like It’s Golden” Jill Scott
How are you living your “Ideal Life”?
I’m happy, sincerely happy. I might not have as much as some folks and my house might not be as on-point as others but our home is filled with love, admiration and respect. I also made a GREAT choice in my life partner! I am so lucky to have married a hard worker who is full of integrity, compassion and understanding with just the right amount of stubbornness to offset the greatness he adds to my life! I have the craziest, fiercely loyal, most beautiful and fun-loving sisters a girl could ever ask for! I’m also lucky enough to have a great circle of friends who are low drama and all-around great people. I try to give back when I can, however I can and I volunteer in several capacities to help improve my community.
Describe your journey
First of all, I’m still very much on the journey! I am the youngest of five kids raised by a single mother. My mom was a strong woman with a wonderful sense of humor for which she was known. She passed away almost 9 years ago and people still talk and share stories about her antics and humor. My sisters are all different and had a significant role in helping me find my way in this world. My oldest sister is 17 years older than me so in many ways I had several “moms” growing up. I am very fortunate to have strong female role models who showed me how to love unconditionally, yet stay strong and independent as a woman. I also have some of the greatest friends you could ever imagine and a couple of them have been life-long! I got to see what success looked like from being welcomed as part of one of my friend’s family and I contribute that key relationship for putting me on the college path. I’m the first person from my family to graduate college and it was never an expectation for me. I could go if I found my own way which is what I did. I’ve been blessed with great job opportunities and worked hard at each and every one of them. But what satisfies my soul like no other, and makes this journey worthwhile is my partner in crime, Rob Fightmaster! I married a one in a million kind of man and I’ve appreciated the rewards ever since. Life is all about the journey and not the destination!
What is the most valuable lesson you’ve learned?
Run your own race. A very wise person taught me this and it took me awhile to understand it. But, once I did everything fell into place. You can’t compare your life to that of others but it’s so easy to do and we all get caught up in that from time to time. Once you break free from that and just live YOUR life, the pieces fall into place.
What challenges did you have to overcome?
Thinking I didn’t deserve a good, comfortable life. I’m not sure why this was my course of thinking, but it was. I am still guilty of “waiting for the other shoe to drop” but I don’t let it paralyze me. It’s a challenge every day to not give in to the negativity around me (news, office gossip, Facebook rants) and focus on positive things.
What is your morning routine?
Honestly, I’m a snoozer… 🙂 I hit the snooze button once or twice every morning. Once I get up, that’s usually the only alone time I have all day, outside of my commute to work. I tend to our dog, Shadow, make coffee and watch some news before taking a shower and starting the routine to make myself presentable for the office. I listen to NPR on the way to work each morning and I’m almost always treated to a great story or perspective I hadn’t considered during my 30 minute commute.
What motivates you?
My husband and trying to make him as proud of his choice in a life partner as I am of mine! We don’t always admit it but we all love to hear that we are appreciated for the skills and talents we bring to the table. I enjoy hearing “good job” as much as the next person and it makes me want to be a better employee when I do get a pat on the back.
What would you share with those aspiring to create and live their “Ideal Life”?
Stop comparing yourself to others, nobody can win that way! You normally end up resenting the person you idolize and will never be satisfied with your own life. Stop the madness and get off that train…NOW! Most importantly, examine the people who surround you. Do they build you up, make you want to be a better person or create drama and chaos? If it’s the latter, get yourself a better group of friends. Good friends are people you want to spend your time with because you feel better after seeing them. I’m almost always face sore after spending time with friends because we laugh so much when we are together—and we’re together a lot!
What’s next for you? I
I’m still pretty new at my job and so my focus is doing all I can to contribute to the success of the firm. I’m reading, networking, asking questions and learning as much I can. I don’t see that ending anytime soon.
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