Name: Chrishan Emonina-Watson
City, State: Mobile, Alabama
Theme Song: Golden by Jill Scott (on most days) BUT when I am looking extra good and going out on the town, the theme song that’s in my head is “You be Killin Em by Fabolous” (don’t judge me!)
How are you living the “Ideal Life”?
That’s a tough one. If you would have asked me six years ago it would have been easy to answer. I consider my life anything but ideal in many ways. I’ve been through so much in the last five years. There is a quote that I like by Robin Sharma that states, “All change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous and the end”. In 2011, I lost my mother and husband within five months of each other. So, my life totally and completely changed. To say change is hard is an understatement. The messy in the middle part for me came from having to adjust to a brand new way of living. Living life as a single mother, having to take on all the responsibilities of a household and having to live life without the two people I loved the most was HARD!! Losing those you love changes you, especially when it’s your spouse. I now fully understand what being “one flesh” means. When your spouse dies, they don’t just die, you die too. It’s hard to explain unless you’ve been through it. I had to learn to live again as a reborn individual. I now feel that I’ve reached the part of change that is absolutely gorgeous. I have remarried an amazing man who loves him some “Honey Bunny” (his pet name for me). He is a great father to my two boys and loves them as if they are his biological children. In March of last year, we were blessed with a baby boy to bring even more joy to our loving family.
So, I guess I am living the “ideal life” by living life with the understanding that there will always be change. Yet I now know that whatever changes, I will not only survive but thrive! I am living Philippians 4:13 each and every day, “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me”.
Describe the journey
The journey has been tough but I wouldn’t take anything for it. It has involved a lot of tears, wanting to give up and prayer. As I persevered, I learned that I wasn’t alone. I had family and close friends who were there supporting me every step of the way.
What is the most valuable lesson you’ve learned?
I’ve learned that even though life might not go the way you planned, it can still be good.
What challenges did you have to overcome?
I had to overcome feeling like I had to be in control of everything. Going from being a two parent household to being a single parent overnight was a learning process. I had to give myself permission to make mistakes and be alright with it.
What is your morning routine?
I get up at 5:30am, say my morning prayers and proceed to getting ready for the day. After my boys get ready we say our daily family prayer. I drop my boys off to school and the baby sitter and head to work. Once I make it to work, I do the one thing I’ve done since I was in the 9th grade and that is make a “to-do list”. People think I am very organized but it’s all because I’ve learned to keep up with tasks every day and prioritize them. Works for me!
What motivates you?
Many things give me motivation. My husband and boys motivate me. They think I am awesome! I guess it helps that I am the only female in my house. I try to be the best I can be because I never want to disappoint them or make them think I am not as awesome as they think I am. Being my own competition motivates me too. I am always trying to be the best version of me. I want the 2016 version of Chrishan to be better than the 2015 version.
What would you share with those aspiring to create and live their ideal life?
Find your purpose. There is something in life that you were purposed to do. You are good at it without trying. My pastor, Vincent Robinson, wrote a book titled, “Living on Purpose”. I suggest anyone who wants to know more about their purpose and how to expand their potential read his book. If you know what you were purposed to do and you do it, you can create and live your ideal life.
What’s next for you?
I have a few exciting things on the horizon. I plan to further my education. Although I enjoy being a counselor, I aspire to take on a senior level college administrator role. I also plan to write more about my journey. I hope that what I went through can help encourage someone else. I’ve gotten so many texts and email messages from women who lost their husbands and want to move on but feel like they will be judged by friends and family because of their decision. I didn’t know what I did was such a big deal to others. However, lending support and encouragement to others who may not otherwise have it is a calling that I am willing to answer.
How can you be reached?
Maybe I’ll make it to the personal website status at some point. Until then, I can be reach on Facebook by my name (Chrishan Watson)