Last night I was talking to my really close friend and we were griping about being in the same place as 10+ years ago. We both have ideas of eventually moving out of careers in corporate America onto something that is more fulfilling. With life, our once frequent deep and life searching conversations have become increasingly far and few between so I always appreciate the times we do have to chat.
In last night’s conversation, she shared with me that her co-worker who was merely 48 years old had passed unexpectedly. This co-worker was a dedicated worker for over 20 years and upon his death, the company did not miss a beat and kept moving forward. As she was telling me the story, questions swirled in my head like:
Was he happy on his job?
What dreams did he have for his life?
Did he have a healthy relationship with his family and what kind of inheritance was left for them?
Was he living his ideal life?
Far too often, I hear of people who give their lives to their 8-5s helping to build empires for others while sacrificing their true desires. I totally think that’s great if it’s doing something you enjoy and/or love or if it plays a role in creating your ideal life. However, if you’re miserable there ensues a problem. My friend’s thoughts, after hearing of her co-worker’s untimely passing, were consumed with “what the hell am I doing? I know this is not what I want to do for the rest of my life or how I want life to be. I feel like I’m on a hamster wheel and I’m decorating it as if I’m going to stay.”
How many of you are on a hamster wheel and how many of you are decorating it? Day in and day out, life has become a redundant cycle of the same ol’ same ol’. Waking up each morning, mentally trying to prepare to go to a place where you really don’t want to go, doing something you really don’t want to do. I know that I have decorated my hamster wheel several times jumping from job to job hoping each time would be different. Not only on the job but in my personal life as well, there had been more days of discontent and complacency. This has to stop! Life doesn’t have to be this way!
Now more than ever is the time to stop decorating your hamster wheel, get off the hamster wheel, and start creating your ideal life.
I know that idea can be frightening as it ventures into the world of uncertainty. However, at some point you have to trust what has been placed inside of you while trusting who placed it in you and move into what is calling you.
How to get off the Hamster wheel?
Recognize the patterns of the cycle. During the ebbs and flows of motivation, try to change your behavior by moving forward regardless of how you’re feeling.
Operate as if you don’t have any other options. It’s easy to defer to the same routines of life but those same routines are what’s preventing you from doing different. When pushed against the wall, the response is often to fight so fight to create your ideal life.
Commit to do different, make a plan, and put it into action.
There are so many others who are operating in their calling and living their ideal life. So should you! Not sure of what is calling you? Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and together we can work towards getting you off the hamster wheel and creating your ideal life.